So, What Exactly Is Love?

Estelle T. Dunomes


So often, love is seen as an emotion that gives you a high when your lover is around but takes a steep nosedive when absent. But, the question "what exactly is love?" begs to be answered. To be very succinct love is more than an emotion; it is a decision.

A decision, you say. Yes, love is a free-will decision.

Who among us hasn't heard stories of those serving in wars who gave their lives in order to save their comrades? We've heard stories too about the mother who’s young child was caught under a car and with the physical strength of a well oiled body builder lifted the car to save that child's life.

Many are the stories told also of the husband who took the brunt of some object’s momentum in order to save his wife from losing her life in a life-threatening accident.

Or what about the husband or wife who gladly stays by the side of and cares for their catastrophically ill or injured spouse whose condition has been diagnosed as a lifetime condition?

Love in each of these cases was a decision, a commitment that was made long before it was tested by these and so many other circumstances.

True love takes any challenge and makes it look like child’s play. However, child’s play it is not. To be sure, the power and scope of love is sometimes incomprehensible but it can be achieved.

These are examples of what love does but exactly what is love?

The inspired answer is given in the oldest, most often printed, most often read book in the world.

Love is patient;
Love is kind;
Love hopes all things;
Love bears all things;
Love endures all things;
Love suffers long;
Love does not envy;
Love does not boast of itself;
Love acts according to good form and taste;
Love rejoices in truth and right;
Love believes all good things;
Love is not easily provoked;
Love never fails.

So then, love IS a decision! In every progressive step listed above, loving involves making a decision.

But, who loves like that? Indeed in today’s society, love like this is hard to find. However, anyone can decide to love like this.

Once the decision to love unconditionally is made, tools found at Keys to Building a Stronger Marriage are available to strengthen that commitment so that the joys of and the decision to love will last for a lifetime. The marriage journey of you and your spouse will answer in a very personal way the question "So, what exactly is love?" You'll not only be satisfied with the answer but will have a happier outcome than you ever thought possible.

Let your journey begin!

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This is only the beginning. I will be posting more information periodically. If you are already a happily married couple, there will be offerings for you that will assist in making your relationship even better.

Should you, however, be experiencing some marriage problems within your relationship, remember that your marriage can be infused with new life, intimacy, happiness and joy. It takes making a decision to renew the love you’ve built between each other.

This blog will provide ongoing information designed to give you the tools you need to build a stronger, longer lasting, happier relationship. Please stop by often.